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Page 1

Lily
 Anderson
 
 and
 Lynette
 Robinson
 
IIRP
 14th
 World
 Conference,
 Nova
 Scotia,
 Canada

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 To
 bring
 new
 awareness
 and
 understanding
 to
 the
 
topic
 of
 adolescent
 to
 parent
 abuse.
 

 To
 acknowledge
 this
 issue
 from
 a
 UK
 and
 U.S.
 
perspective
 

 To
 set
 the
 historical
 development
 of
 Step
 Up
 –
 A
 joint
 
group
 work
 approach,
 and
 outline
 the
 curriculum
 

 To
 explore
 the
 underpinning
 restorative
 theory
 
 To
 invite
 consideration
 of
 the
 cultural
 transferability
 
and
 adaptability
 of
 such
 a
 piece
 of
 practice
 across
 
your
 own
 services
 and
 sectors.

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“The
 great
 thing
 about
 life
 is
 
that
 we
 can
 change”.
 

A
 Restorative
 model
 helps
 
youth
 feel
 capable
 of
 change.

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For
 more
 Informa&on….
 

 Lily
 Anderson
 
 can
 be
 contacted
 
 at:
 

 
 
 [email protected]
 206-­‐296-­‐7841
 

 
 To
 view
 the
 Step-­‐Up
 Curriculum
 


 
 
 
 
 
 
 Google:
 King
 County
 Step-­‐Up
 

 For
 permission
 to
 download
 and
 use
 the
 curriculum
 
please
 request
 permission
 by
 email
 or
 phone.
 
 


 
 
 
 
 
 Lynette
 Robinson
 can
 be
 contacted
 at
 :
 
[email protected]
 
 
 
 


 
 
 
 
 
 To
 view
 her
 Winston
 Churchill
 Memorial
 Trust
 
report
 
 go
 to
 :
 www.wcmt.org.uk
 
www.alternativerestoratives.co.uk

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Trained by Morrnah, over 30 years ago, Jarnie explained her initial involvement:


d to do a workshop for teachers. I had signed up for another
workshop, but changed my mind and went to hers instead,
When I heard her, I thought. (This is it! No more training to take after this.)
In the beginning it was a small p


Talking with her about traditional Ho’oponopono that required families to meet
together to talk through problems, try and find solutions, and achieve forgiveness for
‘wrongdoings’, Jarnie felt that:


ould be very painful as they dredged up painful memories. But with


Jarnie receives her referrals from many sources, does not advertise, and despite
working in a practice area that is clearly offering a service to others. Jarnie explains
that:
‘As
others.
your clients. It becomes your own personal experience and connection to the source
of love.

Unlike Dr Hew Len, who rarely met with his clients or patients, Janie’s clients have
appointments, and she also attends conventional meetings like any other therapist.
However, what clients will experience is her session is quite different.

Jarnie laughs as she tells me,
‘At firs lients like to talk about
themselves, and there is some conversation; for example if I get inspired to say
something, .

She goes on to explain that none of her sessions are planned or prepared.

...


I wanted to understand how she had made the dramatic shift from conventional
practice, and if she had she felt a lack of confidence as she began to use this in her
work?


perhaps awkward or self conscious? But with the cleaning comes more
confidence, more Self I- As we clean and experience more letting
go, the restoration of who we are will happen.
My clients; they come in crying and they leave laughing. (That helps them come back)!

It is hard for the mind to grasp the results from this radically alternative approach, but
on a deeper level, something resonates with what all these professionals are saying,
and I know from my own, newly emerging personal practice of SITH, that it is proving
an empowering tool to have in my professional toolkit.
Although she practices daily, Jarnie will only share the process with clients; if inspired
to do so. And then, she mostly directs them to the main website
www.hooponopono.org for them to gain further information about the process.

http://www.hooponopono.org/

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She does however, regularly encourages clients to develop the art of ‘letting go’ of
problems and worries, and tells them,

t. We e just need to let go .


My final interview was with Jean Nakasato and husband Lester.
As a couple, they have both practiced ho’oponopono, for more than 28 years, and
their gentle, peaceful and easy manner was very noticeable to me.
Jean, who works as an Educational Specialist for positive behaviour interventions, at
Hawaiian Dept, of Education, explained how she remembers seeing a poster
advertising a free talk on SITH. Although (at that time), Lester had been exploring
mediation and Buddhist ideas, they both went and heard Morrnah speak on themes of
‘letting go’, and getting back to Source,

Recalling that first introductory talk, Jean says:
‘The logical mind thinks it .’

They both tell me how their use of SITH as a moment by moment process, has made
their lives together very peaceful and flowing They are both Co-ordinators now, of the
trainings in Hawaii, and share a little more of the Morrnah they knew, and her
remarkable gift. Telling the story of how, (at the early age of three), Morrnah had
watched her father facilitate traditional ho’oponopono meetings, and had commented
to him: ‘The people, they forgive with their mouths, but not their hearts... ‘

Forgiveness is an important aspect of any restorative process and today, the Self
I-dentity through Ho’oponopono, (as adapted by Morrnah), is growing in popularity and
spreading out across the world as a model that easily transfers itself across cultures
and into many professional and personal practices.

It is truly an approach that challenges both the intellect and the rational part of the
mind, and one that requires 100% responsibility and self discipline from the individuals
who practice it daily.
For over a year, I myself have practiced SITH and utilised its practices both personally
and professionally; and continue to grow in my early understanding and awareness of
this unusual process. After years of many trainings and qualifications in analytical and
intellectual theories and processes, it is true that my mind finds these very simple, but
effective ancient practices, very challenging to accept. Equally hard, is that I have no
real understanding (on a logical level) of how they are working.
‘Letting go’ of trying to work it out, and ‘just doing the process’, appears to be the key;
and this continues to be my own experiential and inspirational journey.
Indeed this whole report and entire proposal and Churchill fellowship for this area of
research has been supported and inspired whilst practising SITH.

Even though many may be challenged or dismissive of such ‘alternative’ restorative
practices, we must ask, how effective have our many modern day responses and
interventions alone been; in creating a society of balanced, happy, healthy and self
regulating individuals? And as a ‘ , model, brings with it the flexibility to
develop and explore new ideas and practices (whilst letting go of ones that are not
working), it may well be that ancient practices like Vipassana and Ho’oponopono.
have a significant contribution to make, to the future wellbeing and peace in our
personal, societal; and global family as one whole.

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