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educated; that pretty much is the extent of their expectations. I feel like they are really

open; they don’t have any restrictions in that respect, not with caste at least.

However, Sonya (19, Christian/NC) feels that her grandparents might have some

objection if she married outside of her caste:

My parents probably are going to want me to marry someone who is Indian, but they

would not care if we are not the same caste. I’m pretty close to my grandparents, but

they’ll probably be closed to something like that happening. They probably would

say he has to be from the same caste and from the same state, so it is going to be pretty

crazy if it is what’s known as a mix.

Ketav (20, Hindu) shared feelings of ambivalence about marrying within his religion

and caste:

I am Hindu and from the Brahmin caste; that means that I am sort of from the priest

caste, so the rules for us are somewhat different; we can’t drink alcohol and we are

pure vegetarians. I would probably try to marry into the same caste or religious group;

so I am trying to look for a girl who is also a Brahmin. It is more important to my

parents than it is to me, but at the same time I think they themselves aren’t sure; they

know the culture and they have adapted pretty well to American culture, so they

themselves aren’t exactly sure what they should do. I guess there is supposed to be

some confusion; you have to try to make a compromise between American practices

and Indian practices and somewhere in between you will find something that works.

From the parental point of view, Vanita (36, Hindu) and her husband Abhinav (37,

Hindu), said that they likely would be much more open with their children about whom

they could marry, based on the experiences that they shared leading up to their marriage.

Vanita: We are from different castes and that was a little hard. The first thing my

parents said was, ‘Is this boy from the same caste?’ I say, ‘No, he is not.’ And they

say, ‘OK, then don’t go too close to him; stay far away.’ And I say, ‘OK.’ So that is

the difference. I don’t know, but I think now it is changing a lot.

Abhinav: This is how things were in India at that time; I’m saying that time because

things have changed since then. The caste system is so overpowering that people

don’t want to look beyond it.

Although caste endogamy still is important in Indian marriages, Chauhan (2007) argues

that class has become a very significant variable, and its importance as a desirable

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Dianne Fabii CV Page 4

Lee Hecht Harrison Philadelphia, PA
Consultant 2002-2004

Presented career transition workshops and provided individual career counseling to diverse clients.

Counseling Centers of Delaware Valley Marlton, NJ
Staff Therapist 2001-2005
Provided counseling services to individual clients. Attended supervision meetings and conferences.

Temple University Philadelphia, PA
Consultant and Instructor 2001-2011

Presented workshops and seminars on career development topics; conducted mock interviews and provided

individual counseling on career related issues to students in the Fox School of Business.

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